I am pleased as punch to announce that I've managed to do at least 20 minutes of my pilates video each day since I started my challenge. And in most cases, I make it 40 minutes. Even one day, I made it 50! But was too tired to do the last 10 minute section with weights.
I wouldn't say the workout is getting easier because I think its challenging to me. However, the way I'm handling it is getting easier. I don't feel like I'm going to keel over and die after doing the warm up any more. I can walk up and down stairs and not want to cry afterwards. YAY!
I had some spare time on Sunday to do the video while everyone was home. I was a little bit afraid that Brian would come watch me and laugh, but he didn't :) And my kids had a great time getting in on the action!
My friend Tarah told me that you can substitute cans of veggies or soup if you don't have any weights. My kids thought this was a fabulous idea!
Jaina really got into the video. She ran to get an old preschool nap mat that a friend gave us a long time ago to use as her exercise mat.
After she followed along for a few minutes, she said, "This is really easy!" Well, yeah... especially when you are only doing the last few minutes of the cool down stretching segment at the end of the video :)
And when you get tired of exercising, you can just sit on the floor and eat candy. I think the last time we did Pilates together, it was cookies instead. I think I let Jayce eat too many sweets.
On my yelling resolution.... well, I think that one is way more important than daily exercise, but unfortunately, I am not doing as well with it.
The other night at dinner, I was fixing a plate of food in the kitchen while listening to Jaina and Jayce go ahead and start their dinners at the table a few feet away. I heard Jaina offer Jayce a shrimp to eat from her plate.
"Want to eat a shrimp, Jayce? Its really good! And pink! This used to swim in the ocean but we killed it and cut off its eyes and took his legs and tail off, so now we can eat it!" (thanks, Jaina, for that visual.)
Jayce certainly did NOT want to try a shrimp and started to crinkle up his nose and gag a little at the mere thought of trying a shrimp.
I called from the kitchen counter, "Jaina, that's enough. He doesn't want one. Its okay if he doesn't want to eat it. Not everyone likes shrimp. Just put it back on your plate."
Jaina either didn't hear me or chose not to listen, but it was probably the latter. I look up from what I was doing to see her shove a shrimp in his face trying to force him to eat it.
I lost it. "JAINA!!! I TOLD YOU NO!!!!!"
Ugh. That's all I need is to set Jayce back months on his feeding progress. Honestly, what the hell was she thinking? She knows better!
But... did I really need to yell?
I think if I had stopped my activity, walked the few feet over to the table, and physically removed the shrimp from Jaina's hands, it would have conveyed the same message of displeasure with her actions. And it would have stopped the behavior in its tracks more effectively, which is what I wanted my yelling to do across the room.
Then I could have calmly asked if Jayce was okay and talk to Jaina about why she felt the need to do this. And when Jaina explained that she loves shrimp so much and thought that if she could just get Jayce to eat a bite, he'd realize that he loves it too. And then I would let her know that although she had great intentions and it was nice of her to want to help Jayce learn to eat new foods, that was not the way that his therapists wanted him to learn.
Sigh. But I didn't do any of the above. I just yelled. Blamed Jaina for being mean and saw Jayce as the helpless victim.
I think my problem is keeping calm in the heat of the moment. Maybe if I continue to hold myself accountable through blogging about how I could (and should) have handled the situation, I'll remember to do it in the future.
Cause a few hours later, the next morning, I yelled at Jaina for not wearing socks with her shoes. Yes, really.
In that case, I was tired, grumpy, annoyed, and frustrated in general with the day's events. And when Jaina took off her sweaty winter boot and I got a whiff of her foot odor, it was the straw that broke the camel's back. I loudly informed her that she would NEVER EVER WEAR THOSE SHOES WITHOUT SOCKS AGAIN! Jaina just looked at me with a "wow... mom has really lost it" look on her face and said, "Okay, no problem. Socks from now on. Got it."
Thanks, Jaina, for remaining calm when your mother certainly was not. I then apologized, realizing that it really wasn't her stinky shoes that had set me off to begin with. And we moved on :)
I wake up every morning realizing it is a new day. A new day to accomplish new tasks, a new day to start over from any ugliness from before. I aim to start the day out right, not stressed, so that the morning can continue into a great day.
I hope you all have a great day today too!!